Hurts.. it really does.
Nothing feels so bad as getting blasted by a friend in a blog. It hurts deep down into your heart. A friend asked for ‘help’ and ’suggestions’ on what they were eating, so I offered them. Well, you know how it goes with emails, the tone doesn’t come across the right way, your joking or teasing gets twisted around.. right? Easily done. Well, instead of this friend telling me that what I said upset them, I find out the next day that they have instead completly blasted me in their blog. Of course they didn’t name names, but as soon as someone showed me a copy of it, I knew it was about me.. so you know what? When it comes to this friend, I will no longer post or share what i’ve eaten, even if it’s ‘fessing up’ to how bad I may have done on the weekend, which this friend knows how much I struggle with my eating on the weekend anyway.. and I will no longer offer my opinions on what this friend is eating, has eaten, or is planning on eating. I will just stay out of that conversation. I’m sure I give off an aura that I’m cold, and have no feelings, but I sure do… and I have an extremely thin skin to boot. So if this friend sees my blog, I’m sure they will know it’s about them, and then maybe they will understand how hurt they made me. and I have to be honest, it’s gonna take me a bit of time to get past this hurt, because it really and truly hurt me - a lot!
For those of you wondering, I did get my tax refund money - finally! Yeah!! Now I’m just waiting for the stupid dealership to deposit my check!! They were supposed to do it Monday, and they still haven’t. I hope they don’t jerk me around.
On my eating, I am trying to get more into the flourless-sugarless eating of Plan-D: The Amazing Anti Diet (www.plandee.org for those interested). I’m not selling it or anything, just sharing. It sounds like a great plan, and Kama and I are going to hear the author speak at Sprout’s on Thursday. I’m really looking forward to meeting her and asking her a couple questions. I hope I can successfully do this change over. I need something to help me start losing again, as I keep getting stuck. I’ll lose a pound then gain 3, then lose 2 and gain 1 back and forth and it’s really annoying. Ah well…. such is life, right?
Well I have a busy weekend ahead, and lord knows what’s going to happen food wise. My worst part will be a baby shower I have tomorrow lunch time. Other than that I should be good. Fingers crossed!!
Hope everyone has a great weekend!!
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Oh nothing sucks more than a fight that should have never happened in the first place. (((hugs))) It sounds like you were just being helpful and the friend needed someone to take out their frustration on. Try not to take it to personally, I don’t think it had anything to do with you.
Have fun going with Kama! It sounds like fun! I think I am going to look into that plan too as it sounds like something good for diabetics. I wish I could go with you both.
I don’t know anything about that blog but I can imagine it must have really hurt and if it were me, I’d be feeling like not coming on here, so I applaud you for not letting it get to you and keep you away from us and your success!!
You and I have talked about this hon. LOVE YOU!
Oh my….yep, e-mails are too impersonal which in the end makes them overly personal. Does that make any sense? Ha ha! Have fun seeing that author. Feel better soon.
I have had people misintepret my emails at work before I and it makes me REALLY dislike email… I hate having to use smily faces in work emails so people know I am not being a bitch… It is so childish for work…
The plan D eating plan sounds good! I have been trying to cut out more processed foods and eat more whole foods when I can. I can’t imagine cutting them all out, but I guess I could reduce them gradually over time. It is just something I am trying!
Girl,
I dont know who this is aimed at, and it doesnt really matter. There are a couple of things that i’ve learned here.
That any help offered comes from love. It is sooo very easy to take something wrong when you cant hear the tone of voice or feel the love coming from their voice. So, it can so easily be taken as criticism, or just whatever you know.
I think a lot of us that hasbeen here for anytime at all, then something like this has occurred and feelings are hurt.
I just wanna tell you to hang in there girl. Give yourself some to time to heal from the hurt.
I know you have some very special ladies that will help you through this.
Yay, you finally got that tax return!! Awesome.
Sending hugs…