A hard thing to say…
I have this friend. This friend has told me many times that I am one of the most important people in her life, because I can understand this battle of weight loss, the loss of a mother/parent, parenthood in general…. we seemed to have so much in common… but now, I find that almost everytime I ask her a question about many situations, that this friend feels the need to lie to me. This friend thinks I hold myself as superior to her - I certainly don’t. She thinks I’m jumping down her throat, I’m not. She is constantly mistaking my excitement for her as jumping on her…. I’m not. Right now I find that it’s very hard to be her friend. I try to face her, tell her straight out how I feel, how I want to help… and it falls on deaf ears. :( I don’t know how much longer I can carry on with this friendship as it is. Maybe this is one of those friendships that is only supposed to be for a season, and maybe that season is passing. This friend makes me not want to read emails sometimes, because I just cringe at what might be in it. Today she asked for a prayer request… and I just couldn’t lie to her and tell her that I would pray that for her… because I know deep in my heart it is not what she should be doing, even though she disagrees… I almost don’t want to even come on BS because I’m afraid of what lie her blog will tell, or her posts in the forums… I read someone make a comment one time, I think on her blog, but I can’t remember… saying that this person is two faced. I thought that was rather harsh… but I’m starting to see what that person meant. I’m very sad about this, but am mature enough to understand that not all friendships are meant to last for a lifetime. I’m sure when she sees this blog it will upset her, I’m sorry. There just isn’t anything more I can really say. We don’t need to ‘talk’, we just need to leave it as it is.
I don’t really know if any of this really makes much sense, but I guess it’s ok if it doesn’t. This is just something that I needed to say. If you plan on commenting and being negative, please don’t bother… this is my blog, my thoughts, my feelings, my heart.
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AWW WELL PERSONALLY IF IT HURTS ME TO READ EMAILS IN MY BOOK IT WOULD BE OVER. YES FRIENDSHIPS NEED TO BE WORKED ON BUT IF THEY ARE TOO HARD AND TOO MUCH WORKING THEN IT MIGHT BE TIME TO MOVE ON. SOMETIMES FRIENDS DO NOT LAST AS SAD AS IT IS I HAVE LICKED MY WOODS A FEW TIMES AND IT SUCKS BUT YOU GOT TO DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU
Yep, what Kirstin said…cutting friends loose that we’ve outgrown is brutal, but sometimes it just has to be done. You’ll be a better, happier person when you do, hard as it is.
Oh Nic…………..what can I say? We are mutual in this arent’ we? I have to read this a few times. You are handling this as responsibly and maturely as possible.
Oh my, this ties in so much with my change blog.
Can’t believe we are both talking about change in so many ways. SIGH, now I want to cry.
I too have a hard time supporting something I don’t believe in especially when I know I’m also loving and caring for that person.
I know how hard it is to say enough’s enough when it comes to friends. I’ve had to do it several times. But I also know how hard it is to have friends turn their backs on me… my “best” friend did that to me this year because she couldnt accept my depression.
I’m sending some big hugs your way. I agree completely with Kerstin’s comment. You do have to do what is right for you.
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OMG!!! Very hard time. So sorry. I am sure you know that there is tons of support for you. I have had to do this, this year with a friend of about 20 years. It’s very hard, but I refuse to have people in my life that bring me down. Going through struggles together is one thing, bringing you down is an entire other end of the world.
Youre right..sometimes friendships are only for a season…and it can be sad. Personally I think its best to stop it now before it gets worse. I had a “friend” years back and by the end she had really done a number n me,,,my reputation…my friends and family…my church. It still affects me to this day in the sense I am not all too willing to jump into close relationships. I think youre doing the right thing…HUGS!
I know you will do the right thing no matter what you choose
*hugs*
Im sorry that you are having to go through this with your friend. I know what it feels like. I think that you can only try for so long then you have to step back and see if your getting what your putting into the relationship. It has to be give and take. I hope it all works out for you.
Well don’t let whoever this is keep you from BuddySlim. I will pray that God shows you how to handle this. Hang in there!
I’m not sure exactly what the situation is, but I have had friendships that sadly came to a point that I had to let them go. It’s not easy to do. I feel for you and hope all is well.
If this friend makes you feel inferior then you need to 1) talk to her or 2) leave her. She will wear you down with time and make you feel little of yourself. I had many friends like that, or SO CALLED friend, as we’d say. Like others said I know you will make the right decision but communication is the best thing ever when it comes to situations like this. Good luck, and thanks for the previous support!!